Monthly Archives: March 2013

Ek Brahmin Ne kaha hain…

एक  ब्राह्मण ने कहा हैं के यह साल अच्छा हैं, ज़ुल्म की रात बहुत जल्द टलेगी
अब तोह आग हर एक रोज जलेगी ….

“हाथी निकल गया हैं बस पूँछ बाकी हैं। आप अपना काम कर सकते है पर आपको इसके लिए अपने विचारों को सही तरीके से सामने रखना होगा। यदि आप बोलो के नहीं, मांगो नहीं तो सामने वाला देगा नहीं। मांगोगे तो मिलेगा पर बोलना आप को ही पड़ेगा। – said the lady astrologer who had her stall at the Nakshatra exhibition at Pragati Maidan.

I will not say that I had not believed astrologers before in my life. I had, almost always since my childhood, believed words of visiting self-proclaimed/still-mastering astrologers who were either referred by our relatives or posing as (healthy) beggars at the door. I use to get excited because they just made generic positive statements that soothed my heart in some way. Those words made me believe that I was special and I will be a great person one day. 

Once such astrologer was influencing the thoughts and thinking of my parents when my parents had just known about my affair with Monica. I was made to meet him, not forcibly though, since I believed we (Monica and I) both  were meant for each other and wanted to hear the imminent from him, as well. He made a statement when I was alone with him, “You will never find love of your life and if you force you may lose your parents in process.” I argued that he was wrong and got into an altercation where he promised to shave-off his mustache, if he was proved wrong.”

I had returned home (after dropping him at his home) tense but determined to prove him wrong. Who else but God was going to rescue me and help me win my love. I got very religious and started offering prayers. Not a single day passed, when I did not visit Gurudwara, literally pushing God to the extreme to get me my love. I had no other wish to make before him. 

Finally, two years after the astrologer’s prediction, I was happily married to Monica and both my parents happier and with blessings for us. I had won the argument. Intent and commitment had won over the movement of stars. Or in other words, we changed our fate with firm commitment for each other. 

Since this incidence, I had stopped relying on astrologers or horoscopes. I, however, kept using basic concept of numerology to confuse or impress my friends around. I had been hearing about numerology from my father’s friend Raghu Uncle and it seemed quite logical to me at times.

This time was no different. I was never going to believe what the astrologers were to say this time. My attitude this time hearing the lady was not that of a messenger of God with some super powers but a counselor who was suggesting me, using astrology, (also a science) on how to achieve my goals and desires…

हाज़ारों ख्वाहिशे ऐसी की हर ख्वाइश पे दम निकले, बहुत निकले दम मेरे अरमान लेकिन फिर भी कम निकले …

रात दिन गर्दिश में हैं सात आसमान, हो रहेगा कुछ ना कुछ घबरायें क्या?


I had never expected that Monica will take lead to propose me 17 years back. I had never expected that she will kiss me on my cheek to further confirm the love she had for me. I had never expected that she will take the first call to get married to me even without I mentioning it to her explicitly. However, all this while I had known that I loved Monica and she loved me even more. 

I had never known that I will get to work with IIM Indore. I had never known that I will enroll for PhD program in life.  

I had never expected that Monica will be the one pushing me to enjoy my student life while doing MBA. I had never expected that my parents will never slam for our decision once we got married. I had never expected that Monica will find love and attention of her parents again. I had never expected that I will be dear to my in-laws ever.

I had never known that my first job will be with a company as Manager Corporate planning with no prior experience of working with a corporate. I had never known working on excel or prepare business plans and financial models. I had never known that being transparent about my capabilities will help me instead get the job. I had never known (and till date I do not know) what my first employer saw in me when he adamantly hired me despite my requests of not being fit for the job. 

I had never expected that I will be in Delhi. I had never expected I will buy a DSLR to pursue my dream of being a photographer. I had never expected that I will ever dare to spend INR 50 K to buy a road race bicycle again. I had never expected that I will weigh 75 kg again. I had never expected that my earnings will grow 5 times within a 7 years of my first job. I had never expected to be in debt with EMIs taking away more than 60% of monthly salary. 

 I had never known designations that I hold, influences the behavior of my colleagues towards me. I had never known that designations were so easy to come by. I had never known that entrepreneurs valued money more than the designations they conferred. I had never known that being emotional at work will only cost me a skewed work-life balance. 

When you KNOW and your confident about KNOWING try not to HAVE EXPECTATIONS. When you have EXPECTATIONS then ensure you do not KNOW. KNOWING AND HAVING EXPECTATIONS BOTH may not be a pre-condition to have your expectations achieved. 

Being free in thoughts and actions

No feedback or interaction can be considered to be unbiased. Reason being, we all look at fellow beings through our own perceptions that is further influenced by respective culture, family values, religious beliefs and personal experiences. One can be unbiased only on achievement of complete state of conscious living. In this state, one is an observant to her own actions as well, as an external agent, and hence have unbiased opinions. When in a conscious state of living opinions may totally be non-existent.

But then, this is not the way the world is structured around us. Most of us have a very calculated approach towards communication whether formal or informal. A calculated approach brings about restrictions and hence constraints in what we want to achieve or desire. Further, it escalates to a level of conflict between thoughts and actions. 
Language is a very powerful which when empowered by pure thought can help us to be FREE in what we think and intend to express. Use of correct language is a step to complete state of conscious living.