‘KNOWING’ AND ‘HAVING EXPECTATIONS’


I had never expected that Monica will take lead to propose me 17 years back. I had never expected that she will kiss me on my cheek to further confirm the love she had for me. I had never expected that she will take the first call to get married to me even without I mentioning it to her explicitly. However, all this while I had known that I loved Monica and she loved me even more. 


I had never known that I will get to work with IIM Indore. I had never known that I will enroll for PhD program in life.  


I had never expected that Monica will be the one pushing me to enjoy my student life while doing MBA. I had never expected that my parents will never slam for our decision once we got married. I had never expected that Monica will find love and attention of her parents again. I had never expected that I will be dear to my in-laws ever.


I had never known that my first job will be with a company as Manager Corporate planning with no prior experience of working with a corporate. I had never known working on excel or prepare business plans and financial models. I had never known that being transparent about my capabilities will help me instead get the job. I had never known (and till date I do not know) what my first employer saw in me when he adamantly hired me despite my requests of not being fit for the job. 


I had never expected that I will be in Delhi. I had never expected I will buy a DSLR to pursue my dream of being a photographer. I had never expected that I will ever dare to spend INR 50 K to buy a road race bicycle again. I had never expected that I will weigh 75 kg again. I had never expected that my earnings will grow 5 times within a 7 years of my first job. I had never expected to be in debt with EMIs taking away more than 60% of monthly salary. 


 I had never known designations that I hold, influences the behavior of my colleagues towards me. I had never known that designations were so easy to come by. I had never known that entrepreneurs valued money more than the designations they conferred. I had never known that being emotional at work will only cost me a skewed work-life balance. 


When you KNOW and your confident about KNOWING try not to HAVE EXPECTATIONS. When you have EXPECTATIONS then ensure you do not KNOW. KNOWING AND HAVING EXPECTATIONS BOTH may not be a pre-condition to have your expectations achieved.