We, in life build relations. Some formed as part of customs and practices (formal ones which we are bound to have) and some formed purely from feelings (informal ones). A formal relation gives us a sense of right whether its a parent-child; siblings or husband-wife to reach out and express clearly what we expect or desire. The only problem with formal relations is that most of us end-up using our ‘Head’ instead.
The head builds expectations and directs us to seek what we want rather than what the other person has to offer. Somewhere in formal relations boundaries are quite evident and hence devoid of any freeness and frankness. This may not be a universal truth but this is a normal trajectory for any formal relation in life.
Sufism- defined as selfless experiencing and actualization of truth– is one such path to forming an informal relation with God with no use of logic and intellect. The only thing that a sufi saint has is his feelings for the almighty. Its all about trust and belief and passion to give and share selflessly. This is a feeling felt from heart and not from mind.
While we all may not be able to connect to HIM/HER (for God) during our life, we do experience ‘FEELINGS’ for other mortals that are pure, selfless and full of truth. This one special feeling is that touches not only heart but across the whole body. We feel full of energy, excited and ready to let go anything to live through it.
Lines from an old Bollywood Movie titled Khamoshi state it very well-
हम ने देखी है, उन आखों की महकती खुशबू
हाथ से छूके इसे, रिश्तो का इल्जाम ना दो
सिर्फ एहसास हैं ये, रूह से महसूस करो
प्यार को प्यार ही रहने दो कोई नाम ना दो
प्यार कोई बोल नहीं, प्यार आवाज नहीं
एक खामोशी हैं सुनती हैं कहा करती हैं
न ये बुझती है, न रुकती है, न ठहरी हैं कही
नूर की बूँद है, सदियों से बहा करती हैं
मुस्कराहट सी खिली रहती हैं आँखों में कही
और पलको पे उजाले से झुके रहते हैं
होठ कुछ कहते नहीं, कापते होठों पे मगर
कितने खामोश से अफसाने रुके रहते हैं
Since we are used to formalizing anything that we do in our lives- friendship is the best term to relate to this feeling.
In a true friendship selfless give-and-take happens. The flow of feelings is from both side without any selfish intent.