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breakfast,” shouted Rahi dressing herself in front of mirror in her room. She
lived in a two-bedroom apartment with her parents and younger brother. “I am
looking fatter in this mirror…do looks really matter?”, she muttered to herself
while brushing hair quickly and letting
it fall free over her shoulders. She looked beautiful when she let her hair
on the dining table in the living room when her mother brings in breakfast and
a bowl of curd. “Mom, I do not like milk products, they make me feel like puking
but you offer me everyday.” This was Rahi’s reaction everyday but always
obliged her Mom by finishing the curd.
her studies. She was blessed with three kids- Mahi who is now happily married
in Jalandhar, Rahi and Gopal who studied in Pune. Mr Garg worked with
Chandigarh Administration as a Compliance Officer- a man of principles who
enjoyed great reputation amongst his colleagues for his sincerity and friendly
always have no time to eat. I wish your
in-laws care for you the same way, when you are married? Eat well till you are with
Me.”, Mom said, getting emotional.
time to have tears, I am not missing my first lecture again today. Be Strong!”,
and she rushed out of house.
to work post her graduation and get married to a person she ends-up loving. Somewhere
inside her heart she believed, love at sight is not in her destiny.
home, Rahi’s Mom said, “Rahi should be married soon. She can work once she
is married, if she wants to. Our financial position is stable now and let us
find a match for her.”
worried for Rahi. Ok! let me start exploring”, said father.
at MGM College, Chandigarh. Ashima and Geet were her best and only friends. Being
from a traditional middle-class Hindu family, Rahi was a religious girl,
emotionally strong and with lively nature. She was very accommodating and accepted
changes in her life as and when they came with a smile. She carried a strong
head and never decided anything before giving a rational thought to it. She was
not impulsive in her decisions quite contrary to personalities of Ashima and
attracted the attention of boys. Ashima was the one who had most proposals
coming in. Rahi was not receptive to any such advances from strangers. Geet having
a long-time boyfriend was a known to all and had no pending proposals to deal
fail to understand why I should talk to these guys?” , Rahi asked Ashima. They were walking towards the
bus stop after college and were being teased by two guys on a bike asking for
their name. Geet’s boyfriend picked her every day after college and dropped her
beautiful and they want to be your friend”, Ashima said, waiving to her new infatuation
waiting at the bus stop. “See, I got to date him for next few days to know him
better and if he suits me, I love him else break-off.” Ashima walked ahead of
Rahi and turned to say, “See you tomorrow. Bye!”
Ashima’s approach was also not acceptable to her. She believed, one day destiny
will bring her close to someone she may fall in love with. Rahi travelled back home
alone in the city bus. She use to let her thoughts flow freely with closed eyes
while travelling back home.
sensitive and will not mind to be on his knees to say sorry every time I get
angry. I should be a die-hard fan of this personality longing to see him at
home every day. I will cook for him while he stood next to me in the kitchen,
kissing me, teasing me. My first tea of the day should be prepared by him. His
intelligence should be well respected and appreciated with all who knew him. He
should a very good communicator with strong convincing skills so that he could
easily make-up reasons to convince me and win over me. He should respect woman
and be dependable, ethical, and logical and with a good sense of humor.
Analyst with ICRA.
we have found a boy for you who is working and from a good family background. Will
you consider meeting him?”, her Mom called. “Yes!”, I will she said
never put so much make-up before this day on her face. The eye liner used made
her soft eyes prominent, more defined; alert to judge her potential life
partner. All other members of family stepped out.
formal round of introduction, Rahi asked, “What are your plans for future?”
had a decent dressing sense. His gestures and dressing sense pointed to a comfortable
life he enjoyed. He worked for an advertising function as sales head. He came
across as a skeptical guy with soft eyes though. He looked comfortable talking
to Rahi. He was single son of his parents with strong financial background with
no experience of how tough life can be. His parents’ only attraction to Rahi
could be the quest to search for a girl less demanding and from a weaker financial
background compared to them.
company as sales manager and do not believe in changing jobs frequently. I am
quite satisfied with what I have achieved in life and will like to sustain it.
“What do you expect from your life-partner?”
about Inder. Even if he tried to window dress a response that will be quite
evident to her.
started, “I will expect my partner to take care of my mother first. She has
worked very hard all her life and I am the only son. So my partner should be
attending to her always. I am not very demanding person but will like my
partner to be a home maker who is available for me, keeping the house clean.”
She just nodded with her full attention on Inder.
continued, “Further, kids who should be given full attention at home, my
partner should take consent from me when she wants to do anything in her life.”
blurted out all his expectations prioritizing his parents first, then himself,
then kids. Inder never asked back about her expectations from life partner.
cook and I am a strict vegetarian.” She responded to one of Inder’s questions. She
added, “I will like to work after marriage.”
aback a little by promptness said, “Yes, I have no issues but you should be
home on time to fulfill her responsibilities.”
Inder was not guy she had been imagining.Later that evening, Rahi discussed Inder
with her parents.
to her nature, she said, “I am ready to marry this guy.”
her marriage and Gopal’s future education expense. Gopal had expressed his
desire to go US for higher studies. She wanted to be married soon to lessen their
worries and let them plan for their only son’s higher education in US.
quite convinced that she will not change her mind with regards to Inder.
thought, “I will risk it and live with her decision- good or bad.
first met Inder at her place. All seemed to be going well. She gave enough
personal space to Inder and tried hard inside her mind not to be judgmental and
compare Inder to her dream boy. She cared for Inder.
kept your clothes on bed that you wear today to office. Breakfast is ready on
table and your shoes polished. I go for a bath you start with your breakfast.”,
Rahi said rushing around the house.
seemed to be free and frank with her. Inder’s mother took pride in her decision
to have Rahi as her daughter-in-law. She was over the years taken for granted.
She ate dinner after she served all others but no one was awake to ask her if
she had food or needed any help, support.
Despite being pregnant, she still did not deserve a special care either from
Inder or her mother.
you are always late from office.”, Inder fuming in anger when Rahi returned
from office, one day. He advanced to hit her but stopped when she yelled back, “How
dare you do this to me? I am pregnant and you behave like this. Be a Man! Mr
Inder and mind you!.”
time in two years of her marriage.
every day after returning from office. Seeing her two sons playing and grow
under her motherhood, she forgot her expectations from Inder. They lived in the
same house and were just husband-wife and not couples who were friends.
With every passing year, she was framing a clear picture of Inder- he has a negative
approach to life; never playful; always doubts me and does not trust me; never
speaks his mind.
office was to lean on a sofa in living room and sip a drink.
help her with work and she jumping on her feet and planting a kiss on Inder’s cheek
who was 6 feet tall and she a mere 5ft 4 inches. That day had not come in her life
stressed for failing to get what she wanted out of Inder. He was not very
receptive to what she said and always managed to convince her on what he wanted
instead. Rahi being more adaptive gave-in to avoid any conflict.
ICRA allowed her the flexibility to attend to our family requirements every now
and then. Despite, all her efforts her life was not what she had imagined.
you come with us for lunch, Rahi?”, said Aman getting up from his seat just
opposite to Rahi’s workstation.
Aman was a playful guy with good sense of humor, hardworking and intelligent.
He had the wit to make people laugh with his strange but unique perspectives on
life. Rahi had been observing her all these years and started to relate Aman to
her dream boy. Aman was making her go back recalling her hour long city bus
ride back home, when she was alone and imagined love of her life. She was impressed
with his style, dressing sense and approach towards work- positive and ready to
prompt request from Aman, Rahi replied impulsively, “I will come along.” That
day they exchanged details about their life- where they stayed; what food
preferred, place to holiday etc.
mother of two sons- Aahaan and Rehaan.”, when Aman enquired if she was married.
His parents lived in a village close to Ludhiana city in Punjab. Rahi came
closer to Aman over the next few months. She carried lunch for Aman at times.
to be your friend.”, Aman asked Rahi. Rahi said, “I think we are.”
to Aman. Aman with his playful and care free nature continued to impress her
every day. Rahi was falling for Aman. She liked Aman
but hesitated to think further since she had kids and wanted no further
conflicts and stress in her life. Aman will be the first to be sacrificed if it
came to choosing between Inder and him. She wanted to have a secure future for
her kids and Aman did not fit into the scheme of things. Aman had come too late
in her life.
asked Aman, “I want you to come out with me for a lunch meeting.”,
when do we go?”, replied Aman.
lunch table Rahi said, “Aman, I liked you as a friend and I love you.” She paused
for Aman to respond.
mother and cannot have an undefined relationship.”
agreed and given the fact that you are married, I opt to be your friend..
forever and forever.” Rahi stretched her right hand to hold Aman’s hand and
thank him for understanding her.
her decision she took to marry Inder. She had finally found the love she had
dreamt of; a life partner she imagined exactly but then resolved to live with
her first decision- good or bad.
the lunch, she shook hands with Aman and said, “Aman! You met me so late in