Having a large family



Living our lives we meet thousands of people. Depth of
relation in pecking order is
‘Have Seen/met
before’
, ‘we have known each other
for some time’
, ‘we connect quite
well’
, ‘Everything is special and
effortless between us’
to ‘we are
made for each other’
. In my opinion these relations always assume a higher
significance than the blood relations that we inherit as humans. We love our
parents, uncles, aunties, kids, cousins etc. But connecting to anyone beyond
the blood relation makes us live the true character of a human- the way God
wanted us to Love and care.


Connecting and forming relations comes naturally to us but we
are not the same. We are not selfless in forming relations and instead believe
in getting more than what we can give. In the pursuit of being more practical towards
life, we have lost the significance of true love and feelings. Some of us face
the world with a thought that everyone out there is to exploit and use us. Some
take refuge in customs and practices that are over the ages have come to be the
ONLY norm towards life and love- preaching
a restraint on the outside and while bonding only within family
.

Connecting to build relation is not felt for all we meet in
our lives. Our personalities and philosophy towards life reflects upon the
relations we build in our lives. For a more restrained person, fulfillment of
expectations will drive relations she forms, while for more open free-flowing
person, frankness and transparency will make him connect with others. We
connect with few and every relation has a role to play. Not all relations may
last for life in practicality but anyone we have known once (closely enough), will
always stay in our memories. There is not any exact tenure post which we can
define a relation to be deep. At times, a short chat with an unknown person is
enough for a long lasting relationship while at other times, we may spend years
together before realizing existence of an unknown connect.  

It is of utmost importance that we start recognizing the
definition of family- a LARGE family that transcends beyond the obvious- parents,
wife, kids etc. including friends, neighbors or for that matter anyone we feel
connected to. Why cannot we have these relations deep enough with equal respect
and regard as our blood relations? Why cannot we all strive to not restrain ourselves
from having a LARGE family in this world? When we connect with unknown
virtually (likes of facebook, linkedin and twitter etc.), why can we not have relations
beyond the traditional contours of a Family?