An Insight

I was trying to be rational while talking to my mind for so many years.

I presented it with all possible and impossible scenarios on a pending decision. I expected a firm decision in return. But instead it made me indecisive.

Then I learned- anounce a decision to your mind and it comes with all possible ways to action on it.

Indecisivness is gone for sure. Impulsiveness and irrationality may creep in but its a small cost for a great reward.

Let me try if I am bold enough to announce….

Buddy- we have a Beagle dog

I grew up with pets. I recall playing with Tommy- our pet dog when I was 14.

Today, after 26 years I finally committed to owning a dog again. My daughters and spouse demanded to have one for a few years but I did not heed to their demands. I reasoned that we may not be able to take good care of our pet given a nuclear family, frequent outstation trips and lacklustre approach to household work.

But on Nov 6 2017, I told my daughter about the decision. My wife reacted in disbelief, “please don’t tease us. You are never going to have a pet for us.”But I was serious and we had a 25-day old Beagle puppy join us.

My elder daughter will be home soon for her annual break from boarding school. We are sure she is also going to enjoy her stay with Buddy- the name for new family member.

As typed by my daughter:

“We have a dog he is very cute. He Love us we also love him. He plays with me we love him. Thank you and have a nice day.”

Boredom strikes me back

My parents limited my outing in our neighbourhood. I grew in an industrial town in India. Most of the times I had to engage myself at home either playing or hanging around my mother demanding her attention while she rushed through household chores. This was in 1980s.

I do not remember how I came to learn about the word “bore” in early childhood. But I was a frequent user of it. Today, when I search wikipedia to understand it, the definition goes as, “In conventional usage, boredom is an emotional or psychological state experienced when an individual is left without anything in particular to do, is not interested in his or her surroundings, or feels that a day or period is dull or tedious. It is also understood by scholars.”

Yes, I can relate to this very well. Since those first 17 years, my life transformed and I never felt bored. But boredom has struck me hard back in last few weeks.

This may have happened for following decisions about myself:

1. Don’t watch Television

2. No reading of newspaper

3. Deleted my whatsapp account

4. Limited my login to Facebook to once a week

5. No game installed on my handphone

6. No news app on my phone

I have been pursuing photography as a hobby for years. I write my personal diary almost every alternate day and it’s a routine for years now. I exercise for more than 5 times a week. Despite all of this, I am bored.

I fail to comprehend the reason. May be an addiction to things listed above. May be I need to add reading with more rigour to counter. May be at times I have to learn to be just “free”. May be I have stop finding a purpose in everything I do in my daily life.

But then why Am I writing this over a few mugs of beer?

It’s boring actually 🙂

Sometimes Fast-Sometimes Slow

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I learned to rush post my student life. It was as if a race to survive. I could see rewards for being fast. My first competitive exam to qualify for admission into an engineering college taught me the same.

In my first job with a media company, I was asked to finalize a 5-year business model in 12 hours. I was awake the whole night trying to comprehend and meet my target to submit and defend the business model. I was returning from work the following day waiting for the next local train to take me home.

Seated on the bench, I was exhausted from the effort the previous night. I decided to call it ‘quits’ and prefer to further my career in academics where I had already gained some experience post my post graduation.

But this feeling did not last for more than a day. I had convinced myself that I had the intelligence and the only lacking was ‘speed’ factor. If I was fast, I could have finished the business model in 1/4th the time available, taken a full 9-hour sleep, re-evaluate the model prepared the previous night before standing in front of my boss and explaining him every aspect of the model.

This was sometime in 2004. Since then I ‘speed’ exploit me. ‘Speed’ gave me career growth, more money, business and a feeling of a performer. When I finished my part of work at office or home, I kept myself busy with work that was not mine. I was appreciated for being multi-talented. I was multi-tasking and as a result speeding even more.

In a decade or so, I acquired the habit to speak fast. I rushed drafting my emails and fire without proof-checking. The negative impact of ‘speed’ was becoming evident in my physical and mental health. I was usually anxious and breathless after climbing to the first floor to my residence.

My life underwent a transformation post year 2012. I decided to post regularly on my personal blog. I took up writing with a pen with compiling my thoughts for the day in a personal diary. Cycling became a preferred sport to spend time on weekends. Photography helped me to slow down. I spent hours walking and searching for a subject to click on streets.

‘Slowness’ was returning to my life. I, with the improved wisdom of the late thirties, learned to prioritize, focus on impact over action and decide the ‘speed’ for each activity I undertake. I can now choose to be slow or fast – Sometimes fast and sometimes slow.

My wife teases me, “You take much longer to dress-up.”

 

 

 

Having a Purpose – first anniversary

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“Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” – Viktor Frankl

Last year, I sought a change of job- something new and different. I wrote several drafts of my resume. But every draft lacked attributes differentiating me from others. I was neither an alumnus of tier 1 institutes nor did I possess technical skills.

A quest for a differentiator, I focused on soft skills that I possessed. I wrote more than 20 pages about the companies I worked for, events and challenges faced; my understanding of the business models; criticisms for my actions and personal motivation to work. Finally, I found ‘purpose seeking’ as one attribute that defined my approach towards life and work.

Today, I celebrate the first anniversary of finding ‘purpose seeking’ as a guiding principle of my life. I vouch for actions adding meaning to my life and work. I am happy and motivated. I have lived purposeful 20 years but the first anniversary of knowing about it.

I want to…

Research suggests that socialization prolongs life. But I, despite realizing this have been moving away from socializing.

I want to change.

I want to be more carefree to express my feelings.

I want to love and care without a purpose.

I want to make every girl in my life to feel special.

I want to be careless in building relations but not loose any of those who know me and I know them.

I want to take away worries from all I know.

I want to make happy all I know.

I want to be selfless for all who I know.

I want to be sincere and truthful.

Free time activities

I started a fitness routine (regularly) by re-starting cycling back in June 2012. This was after a gap of 17 years. I had spent Rs 60K to own a Cannondale Cadd 8 series road bike.

Blogging has been another activity that I have been regular with. I write about my life, my feelings and experiences. I have been adding a few blogs (an average of 2 in a month) every year.

Some key Stats about my free time activities:

a. Covered a total distance of 10,460 km cycling, running and walking since June 2012.

b. Total of 85K plus words across 200 odd blogs since year 2010. I have not been able to retrieve the stats easily for blogs before the year 2010.

c. Views of my blog has not been more than 5K but I have had visitors from 195 countries

The charts below highlight and explain the story pretty well.

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